Grappling With Divinity

Contemplative Christian Reflections by Robert Van Valkenburgh

Grappling With Divinity.
Wrestling With God.
Returning To Love.


What I Write About

At Grappling With Divinity, I write from within the living stream of Christian mysticism and contemplative prayer, where faith is not mastered but practiced — slowly, honestly, and with reverence.

These reflections explore divine love as it meets us in suffering and joy, doubt and surrender, weakness and awakening. They trace the quiet work of conversion — the lifelong unfolding of grace that reshapes the heart and draws us deeper into union with God.

Here you will find meditations on Scripture, spiritual formation, the wisdom of the mystics, and the hidden movements of God within ordinary life.

This is not a place for easy answers.

It is a place for
Grappling With Divinity.
Wrestling With God.
Returning To Love.

A place where faith deepens through mystery, and where even our struggle becomes prayer.

Lectio Divina (Coming Soon)

My writing follows the ancient rhythm of lectio divina — listening, reflecting, praying, and resting in God. Here you’ll find guidance and reflections shaped by this contemplative way of reading Scripture for transformation, not just information.

Practice Lectio Divina →

Christian Mysticism (Coming Soon)

Christian mysticism is the path of deeper union with God. Drawing from the wisdom of the contemplative tradition, this section reflects on divine love, interior transformation, and the indwelling presence of God at the heart of ordinary life.

Explore Christian Mysticism

Spiritual Direction (Coming Soon)

Spiritual direction is the sacred practice of listening for God together. Rooted in the contemplative tradition and informed by my studies at Loyola University Chicago, this space explores discernment, surrender, and the quiet work of grace in everyday life.

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A Contemplative Rule Of Life

GRAPPLING WITH DIVINITY.
WRESTLING WITH GOD.
RETURNING TO LOVE.

Explore My Reflections

Following the contemplative rhythm of Lectio Divina
Moving from Attentive Reading (Lectio)
To Reflection (Meditatio)
To Prayerful Response (Oratio)
And finally into Silent Resting in God (Contemplatio)
Grappling With Divinity invites a slow unfolding of Scripture, Spiritual Wisdom, and Lived Experience.

  • Oratio Divina: Forget Again

    Oratio Divina: Forget Again

    This oratio divina reflects on the fragile gift of each moment and the profound gratitude that arises when we recognize life as breath from God. It is a prayer of awareness—receiving every heartbeat, smile, and tear as sacred. The piece wrestles with the human tendency to forget this gratitude, pleading for the grace to…

  • Lectio Divina: God Uses Our Past

    Lectio Divina: God Uses Our Past

    This Lectio Divina reflects on the hopeful truth that God wastes nothing—not our wounds, our failures, our triumphs, nor our hidden struggles. Every piece of our story becomes raw material in His hands, shaping a future of purpose, redemption, and deeper trust. As we surrender our past to Him, we discover a God who…

  • Oratio Divina: Fumbling My Way

    Oratio Divina: Fumbling My Way

    This oratio divina reflects the honest struggle of trying to love as Christ loves—returning to God again and again through prayer, despite pride, fear, and repeated stumbles. It’s a humble meditation on the lifelong journey of grace, reminding us that the path to heaven is not walked in perfection but in perseverance, trust, and…

  • Lectio Divina: Love Is

    Lectio Divina: Love Is

    James Finley reminds us that love is not merely one virtue among many—it is the fullness of justice, mercy, and beauty because it is the very life of God. This reflection invites us to contemplate how every expression of holiness flows from divine love, calling us to recognize God’s presence in every act that…

  • Oratio Divina: Without A Hand To Hold

    Oratio Divina: Without A Hand To Hold

    This oratio divina reflects on the subtle ways the devil draws us into isolation—promising money, honor, and power—only to leave us alone in darkness and without hope. Yet even in this desolation, Christ meets us. The prayer reminds us that Jesus enters our deepest loneliness, offering his hand and inviting us back into communion…

  • Lectio Divina: Like You Love

    Lectio Divina: Like You Love

    This Lectio Divina invites us to reflect on Jesus’ call to love others as we love ourselves, highlighting the profound truth that self-hatred inevitably spills into our relationships. Sister Miriam Heidland’s words remind us that authentic charity begins with receiving God’s love for us—allowing it to transform how we see our own worth. When…

  • Oratio Divina: If He Had His Wish

    Oratio Divina: If He Had His Wish

    This oratio divina reflects on the overwhelming grace of God made visible through the simple, sacred moment of resting beside a loved one and listening to her creative expression. The prayer looks back with compassion on a younger self who felt despair, acknowledging how God’s goodness preserved a future filled with joy, fatherhood, and…

  • Lectio Divina: Thank You And Yes

    Lectio Divina: Thank You And Yes

    Dag Hammarskjöld’s words invite us into a posture of holy surrender—gratitude for the past and trust-filled openness toward the future. This Lectio Divina reflects on the spiritual maturity required to say thank you for what has shaped us, and yes to what God will yet unfold. It encourages readers to embrace God’s presence in…

  • Oratio Divina: Dying Star

    Oratio Divina: Dying Star

    This oratio divina invites us to confront the brevity of life with honesty and tenderness. Like a distant star fading into the vastness of time, our lives pass quickly—yet love remains the one enduring measure of meaning. The poem urges readers to pause before “flickering out,” to consider whether they have truly loved and…

  • Lectio Divina: Slow Work Of God

    Lectio Divina: Slow Work Of God

    This Lectio Divina invites us into a posture of holy patience, reminding us that God’s transformation rarely arrives in a rush. Pierre Teilhard de Chardin’s words call us to trust the gentle, gradual, and sometimes hidden work of grace unfolding within us. When life feels slow, uncertain, or unfinished, we are reassured that God…

  • Owe Nothing But Love: Theodoret of Cyrus on Love as the Fulfilling of the Law (Lectio Divina)

    What if the command to love was never a debt you could actually pay off? Theodoret of Cyrus reads Paul’s warning about owing nothing but love and finds something stranger than an obligation — a debt that grows the more it’s paid, rather than shrinking. This reflection sits with what it feels like to carry…

  • No Longer Carved in Stone: Augustine of Hippo and Love as God’s One Law (Lectio Divina)

    What if the law you can’t seem to keep was never meant to be kept from outside at all? Augustine insists something was written into you long before you ever tried, and failed, to obey a command pressed on you from without.

  • Even a Pin Picked Up in Love: Thérèse of Lisieux and the Little Way of Sabbath (Lectio Divina)

    What if the smallest thing you do today — a pin lifted from the floor, a quiet hour handed over — carries more weight than the great things you keep waiting to do? Thérèse of Lisieux hints at a strange arithmetic of love, and this reflection sits with the Sabbath we keep so imperfectly, and…